I’ve never felt worthy to be a father — to be given that kind of responsibility for another life. In a lot of ways, I still don’t think — with two kids running around our house — that I have fully embraced this commission and call on my life.
Most men, I think, can relate.
Call it our culture. Call it the failure of ourselves or those who have gone before us. Call it what you want. Regardless, we just aren’t ready when that little life is placed in our arms for the first time.
Ready or not, that child is coming. And those nine months go so quickly. Women have the blessing (and challenge) of carrying this life in their womb for nine months. That child is intertwined with everything they do for nearly a year. It’s not that way for the man.
If you are in the thick of pregnancy or considering having your first (or second, third or fourth) child, engage. Jump all in. Be the man who knows just as much about the birthing process as his wife.
Knowledge is power. With knowledge of birth, you will be able to be there for your wife in a way you couldn’t if you didn’t engage in understanding this miraculous, awe-inspiring process that God chose to use in order to bless us with a beautiful 8-pound human being.
If you’re not sure where to start, Penny Simkin’s The Birth Partner book is full of information to help you in your role. Start there, and don’t stop until that little life stares you straight in the eyes.
All the hard work will be worth it.